CHAPTER 6

WILL POWER CONTROL

The title of this chapter came to me very loud and clear. I've been told that the Dark One does not want me to tell people about will power control. I understand the Dark One's point of view. After all, giving people back their power takes away from his power over them.

Will Power Control is when someone or something has influence, power and/or control over another and their will and is the treasure sought after by the Dark One in the human race, individually and as a whole.

Reclaiming our power means we regain control over the choices we make. Conscious choice is a birthright. Unconscious choice is a strategy used by the Dark One in which you are tricked into believing that you are in control of your life when, in fact, he is. When you realize that your emotional pain and suffering that you've been experiencing all these years are not really who you are but just the Dark One worming his way into your life to keep you under his domain, thereby wreaking havoc in your life, you have taken the first step to reclaiming your power and winning at the game of your life.

The only way someone can have this influence over us is if we ALLOW it. I think emotional bullies tend to exhibit behavior that ensures the prevention of anyone influencing them in any way other than what they want for themselves, while their victims tend to exhibit opposite behavior that allows for an unhealthy overload of influence. These opposites attract because of natural law. Natural law is one of order. Balance is a part of this order.

Visual Exercise for Will Power

Imagine everyone in the world as a walking wand of blue electricity, with this electricity enveloping each of us. In a healthy, harmonious world, everyone interacts with one another with their electricity flowing harmoniously with one another. In this case, everyone's power is intact and balanced. What happens when you encounter someone with whom you have some sort of conflict? The electricity clashes between the two of you. Rather than flowing harmoniously, it is arcing and zapping. In the case of will power loss, the electricity of one person will be pulled into the electricity of another. The idea behind this exercise is that we are not to take the power of another. When we encounter someone with whom we have a conflict, it is alright when sparks fly; after all, that is exactly what happens. But it is not alright to either take the energy (power) of another or allow someone to take yours.

The Solar Plexus

Our will power is housed in our solar plexus. Our solar plexus is our third chakra (energy center) and is located in our upper abdomen. Imbalances in the solar plexus (due to will power issues) cause various physical symptoms, such as digestive and gall bladder issues, and mid back pain and discomfort. As I am not an expert in chakras, I, at this time, will refer you to the many websites and books dedicated to the subject if you are interested in learning more about them.

My personal experience with solar plexus imbalance was a painful one. Not too long ago I started having what I called "gall bladder attacks" because the pain felt like it was coming from the area of the gall bladder (where the solar plexus also affects). The pain was excruciating. When I let go of any kind of control I had over it, I could do nothing but groan and moan, loudly. In the beginning, the attacks lasted up to an hour. After the second or third attack, I realized these attacks were energy related and not as a result of something I ate. It took several more attacks before I was able to associate it to my will power (solar plexus). As I learned more information with each attack, I was able to maintain control, do my energy work on myself, and get my attacks down to less than five minutes. I never went to the doctor because I knew it was energetic in nature, and that it was something for me to figure out as a woman and as a healer. (CAUTION: Do not follow in my footsteps. Seek medical attention at all times). I have worked diligently on my solar plexus (will power issues) since these attacks, and it has been awhile since my last one. I can only hope that I have cleared this out all issues concerning my will power. (NOTE: I wrote this awhile back. I can honestly report, with a clear conscious, that I indeed have cleared up all will power issues. Thank you, God.)

Working with will power issues is not for the faint of heart. Sometimes it feels like it would just be easier to keep things in status quo; however, at our soul level we know that it is not an option. After all, we are fighting for our life, our identity, and the jackpot that is awaiting us when we win the game of life. Giving up clearly is not an option.

As a part of working with my solar plexus (will power issues), I discovered the amazing healing properties of herbs; in particular, peppermint and pau d'arco. Peppermint is for the solar plexus as well as digestive issues, and pau d'arco is for fear (after all, there is a certain amount of fear associated with regaining one's will power). Again, I am not an expert in herbs. I read various texts and websites to gather my information, as well as consult with an herbal nutritionist. All I can say is that when I put these two herbs together for the first time as a tea, it was like rocket fuel for the solar plexus. I must have been ready to release a lot of energy because that's exactly what happened. It was powerful (not painful).

I noticed that in working with my will power issues and the pain and discomfort in my mid back, that these issues also affected my lower back (second chakra) which is responsible for creativity. In essence, giving away my will power prevented me from creating what my soul yearns.

Chakras have a front aspect and a back aspect. The front aspect (yin) is feminine in nature and the back aspect (yang) is masculine in nature. With regard to the solar plexus, the front aspect is responsible for feminine qualities such as feelings, emotions, compassion, etc. It is where we feel our pain and hurts. The back aspect of the solar plexus is responsible for masculine qualities such as standing up for oneself and "having a spine".

Power loss results when the balance tips in favor of either the yin or the yang. Victims' power loss tips in favor of the yin as they absorb pain rather than letting it go, creating an "ego-deficit" syndrome.

When the balance tips in favor of the yang, we do not allow ourselves to feel the pain and react in an "ego-excess" fashion as we are in a constant mode of defending ourselves. We then become the bully.

Emotional healing is the ensuing battle to regain control of one's will power, and it's not an easy one. Regaining one's power of will becomes a balancing act. On the one hand you still are experiencing the power of loss, and on the other you are exerting your choice to exercise your will power by fighting to get it back. What it ends up looking like is the ups and downs of trauma and drama. As the power loss continues on the down side, you've become complacent and accustomed to this place of lost power as you feel tired, in the wrong, down and out, depressed, and so on. On the up side, you are angered and frustrated as you fight for what is rightfully yours. As the process of emotional healing clears away the "funk 'n' junk" from the "old" (the side of power loss) and the "new" (the side in which you are fighting to regain your power), you eventually get to a place of balance wherein, because you have now regained your power, you peacefully and calmly recognize that an attempt has been made to take your power away, and you peacefully and calmly take care of this minor blip in your day. Gone are the days of battling for your power. However, reaching this point by no means indicates that your journey is over. Opportunities will continually present themselves until you have mastered this course, and then some. Do not make the mistake of taking the gloves off too soon, because just when you least expect it, you will be hit with another attempt to take your power. You can count on it.